I am a Christ-follower. I am happy to admit that do my best to honor God with my life. I may miss the mark quite often, but I do try. Having said that, I often feel like I am in the minority when it comes to my views as a Christ-follower, particularly when it comes to the topic of homosexuality.
I have what my mother refers to as a ministry to homosexuals. I never asked for it, but it’s there. When I was growing up, I was taught by Christians around me that gay people were just plain bad. I simply accepted this since I figured they must know what they’re talking about. I had seen things in the Bible that talked about homosexual behavior being wrong.
As I grew older, I started to come in contact with people who embraced a gay lifestyle. I didn’t see what was so bad about them… many seemed to be hurting, in my opinion. I remember a transvestite who frequented the restaurant where I waitressed. (S)he always asked to be put in my station. I recall thinking sarcastically, “Why me?” So at one point, I politely asked. Her response was that I was the only one there that treated her like a person.
There have been several more since then who have popped into my life (some even within the walls of the church ~ gasp!). I used to carpool to work with one young man who was afraid to admit his lifestyle to me because he knew I was a ‘church person.’ I told him that I accepted him for who he is, not what he’s doing. I let him know that when I am perfect, when I can walk on water, I'll judge him. Until then, I plan to love him and treat him like I would any other friend. To say that he was shocked would be an understatement. He told me that I was the first Christian he’d met who didn’t immediately tell him that he was going to hell. We are still friends to this day.
Here is what I don’t understand… Why does the Christian community (as a whole) condemn gay people and why are they the ones who are trying to decide who goes to heaven and hell? I thought that was God’s responsibility, and His alone. I have the Bible in several different versions and have studied them throughout my life. I have yet to find where it tells me to judge these people based on their sexuality.
If every sin is equal in the eyes of God, why do we, as Christians, attach degrees of sinfulness? Gluttony is a sin, so are all fat people (myself included) destined for the fires of hell? Lying is a sin that I’m sure we’ve all committed at one time or another. The Bible says that to look on someone lustfully is to have committed the sin of adultery in his/her heart… I’m guessing most of us have done that one as well. I just don’t understand why we’ve taken certain sins and put them in the unforgivable category. The only one I’ve found that belongs there is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.
I don’t understand the rationale of the Westboro Baptist Church. I can’t reconcile to myself that protesting at funerals is the way to make God smile. Jesus said to let him who is without sin cast the first stone. The Bible tells us to love God and love others. We are supposed to be known by our love. How are they showing love? To be completely honest (and that's what I'm trying to do in this blog), it's vastly more difficult for me to keep from judging those who I see as hypocrites than it is to keep from judging my gay and lesbian friends.
Like I said, I rarely talk about anything remotely controversial, and I likely won’t do it again (I’ll stick to my more acceptable ponderings & maybe a recipe here and there), but I just felt that I needed to go on this soapbox rant. I welcome your comments, but remember that I have friends on both sides of this issue. Please be respectful of each other on my page.